Sit down, I'm about to get my rant on. Am I the only one who thinks the dad who shot the laptop was being a bit extreme and not displaying an adult reaction to conflict?
Here is a link to the video in case you have no clue what I am talking about. Go ahead, this long ass shit will still be here for you to read when you are done.
It seemed rather immature and excessive. Everyone is cheering this guy on, but what if he really is a dick and his daughter really is over whelmed? Come on now, she's 15 and he demands she get a job already? Fucking 15?! What, should she have babies and be out of the house by 18? Shouldn't she be focusing on school? She's not doing anything more rebellious than we did as kids, we just didn't have the internet to post our feelings on, I wrote it in my diary, and god as my witness if my parents ever read my diary they would have thought I was the devil incarnate.
When we vent our feelings, it's temporary and it's an emotional response to frustration that is normal in adolescents. I promise you I wrote way worse"Dear mom and dad" letters and talked way more shit about my home life when I was 15, then this girl did. I'm not an unproductive member of society and a complete dipstick, granted I didn't get caught, but that's because I didn't leave evidence. Kick a dog for shitting on the rug and all he will do is find a place to poop where he thinks you wont find it. All the dog understands is he got punished for taking a shit and that's not very fair. I'm not saying teenagers are dumb as dogs, but lets be honest here, they aren't Nobel prize winners either. Their life revolves around emotions, life or death dramatic fucking emotion.
Babies, cry because they can't express their emotions with words, toddlers throw temper tantrums because they are easily frustrated and powerless, teenagers curse and act out around their friends because they are also powerless and frustrated with their "place" in society. We teach our younger kids to "use your words" and "take a moment, calm down, tell me what's wrong" We say things like "Are you tired?, Are you hungry?" and "I know it's not fair you can't have a candy bar now, but would you like carrots or apples as a snack instead?"
Why is it teenagers all of a sudden no longer deserve simple respect that we give to toddlers? Why is it all of a sudden they are expected to get our coffee, make us drinks, become indentured servants without any notion of appreciation for their effort? They have to pick up after us, watch their siblings, all while maintaining a pleasant attitude? They have raging hormones, social pressures up the ass, school problems, teacher who try too hard and teacher who try too little, acne, periods, boobs, boners, and not enough of whatever it is that makes you cool.
I fucking HATED age 11 to 18. FUCKING HATED IT. That's a long damn time to be frustrated, voiceless, and powerless over anything in your life because you are a minor and must do everything your parents say, with a smile on your face and how dare you offer a differing opinion and where they can shove it.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying teenagers are entitled to be disrespectful shitheads. There are a lot of kids out there who don't know the value of the dollar they just sold their self respect for. I've seen these kids and they make me want to punch their arrogant little faces off and shake them so hard their children children's come out looking like Rosie O'Donnell pooping. ( Picture that for a minute)
However, I'm damn sure someone felt the exact same way about me. If my generation could've posted on facesuck and twatter I guarantee we would be looking at an archive that read like this:
- Parents Just don't understand.
- My brother is dressed like Marilin Mansen again, he's a LOOOSER!
- I'm going to go all columbine if my dad doesn't get me a Play Station.
- WHERE'S MY PAGER?!?! Why did I get a bike, I wanted a PAGER, Fuck you mom and dad.
- I just like how he's always leaning. Against stuff. He leans great.
- I need money for smokes again, I'm going to hang out in front of the grocery store and beg for change.
Not much different, just change the media with which we bitch and the materialistic shit we covet. Now this "well meaning" power tripping father who was embarrassed at what a bunch of 15 year old girls thinks of him, destroys a laptop to prove a point.That's not good parenting, that's immature, destructive, and hostile. How about instead of being flippant and aggressive, he tell her if she doesn't appreciate the things she has he will take them away until she earns them back? If that's not good enough, why not donate the laptop to a child in need? A homeless shelter that needs computers so people can find jobs? A battered womens shelter? Or any other numerous charities? If you TRULY Think your child only thinks of themselves, then show them what it means to think of someone else for a change. Show them what deserving really means.
Instead, the dad chose a violent reaction to a pretty mundane teenage event. I will NEVER Destroy something that belongs to my child, regardless if "I BOUGHT IT SO IT'S MINE" or "It's in MY house", because you are showing that not only does property mean nothing to you, but the value of a dollar is debatable as well. If I'm willing to just destroy a laptop because I'm angry, it doesn't mean that that crime was serious, it means I have no self control over my own emotions and the several hundreds of dollars I spent on it, must not have been that hard to spend.
Admit it, in all honesty, you don't know anything about this family, but you are probably annoyed at the kids you ran into at the mall or the annoying shits who toilet papered your house. This is not good parenting, A++ FTW, It's Emotional abuse, I'll provide a link to a site here that outlines this pretty well, since you are likely to say that is too extreme. Here is another link explaining how this method of parenting creates crackheads
And lastly here is an interesting article which is..interesting but makes sense. Before you think I am the ONLY opposition, here is another blogger bitching away.
If a husband did this to his wife, she'd be applauded for leaving. If a boss did this to an employee, he'd be fired and black listed. If a wife did this to her husband, everyone would call her a crazy hoe. Why the HELL are you cheering him on? Just because he's a father, this behavior is okay to teach our children? What the hell is wrong with you people?!?!
Honestly, I'd be afraid he'd shoot me next. He's quoted as saying that he is sure that his daughter now knows that his resolve is firm and his threats are not empty....so you plan to rule her by fear then? So "If you come home with an F then I will lock you in your room for the rest of your life"...Well, I'd believe you psycho dad, because clearly you mean it when it comes to extreme forms of punishment.
Furthermore, what the hell did she learn by that? Certainly not responsibility, not consequences, instead he permanently embarrassed her and damaged her for the rest of her fucking life. I said many things as a teenager I didn't really mean, things that i felt one week I totally didn't care the next, I got over it. Her lashing out in secret was "private" and temporary just as if it were her diary. Yet he publicly humiliated her and big shock here but what's on the internet can't ever be undone. It will follow her forever. So thanks dad, You just ruined my chance to get that job now! Poor Hannah Montana and her viral video, forever an insolent child thanks to the laptop shooting redneck daddy, that emotional response will haunt her for life.
We tell parents, as a general rule, never punish your kid while you are angry, because you will overreact and you will be harsher than you will be proud to admit later. Apparently nobody told him that. Did you even try to TALK to the kid before it got to this point? Maybe let her express herself in a constructive and mature manner? Not everything in life has to be so extreme and heavy handed, not everything requires the most extreme approach. Two wrongs do not make a right, and the harder you are on your kid, the less likely they tend to give a shit about you in return. Less likely to come to you when they need help too, when someone hurts them, when they made a mistake they need help with, when they feel alone, suicidal, or ready to shoot people from a bell tower.
Am I being too harsh in my opinion of this guy and how HE chooses to raise his kid. Yeah, maybe, but from someone who had a pretty fucked childhood, ( of which I will admit I have forgiven my parents for) I grew up learning certain bad behaviors were okay. To this day I still have emotional issues which is unfortunate my loved ones, my child, and anyone who knows me well enough has to fucking put up with until I can get my shit straight. Thanks to constant conflict in my life growing up I am a god damn asshole.
I've promised that I won't tell people how to raise their kids, and that there is no "Right" way to be a parent. I did not promise to be silent when your method of parenting is making more assholes, shaping insecure women ready to be abused due to low self esteem and prom night dumpster babies. You sir, are a dick, and I am APPALLED that you wasted ammunition only to intimidate a child.
If shooting a gun into inanimate objects makes you a hero I should be awarded the highest honor as I kick ass at that every time I go to the range.
I'd like to point out, half the people cheering this jackwagon on via my facebook feed DON'T HAVE KIDS, so I'd like it if you grow some parental chest hairs before you think you know everything. Do I know what it's like to have an ungrateful underdeveloped smart ass in your house? Someone whose busy eating your food, not doing chores, takes two hours to clean the bathroom, asking for rides to places, not paying rent, calling in sick to work, never puts a bag in the trash can after he empties it and thinking you are incredibly lame every time you breathe? Yes and I still love my little brother despite it all and I hope that I have enough money saved up for military school by the time Connor hits the storming out of the room stage.
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